So what do the best account managers in businesses like marketing agencies, SaaS startups and professional services businesses do? My company gathered research, spoke to a number of client services experts, and thought through some of our own practices. The result: Four habits that successful account managers do regularly to improve relationships.

Empathize Instead of Patronize

How often has someone in a customer service role talked to you as though you were a child? When you don’t empathize with your customer you come off as fake and condescending, even though you don’t mean to. So how do you become more empathetic? Don’t be too vague or scripted. According to Brandon Knight, VP of contact center optimization for Corvisa, it’s hard to convey empathy when every word is scripted. “Companies are actually more successful when they move away from the ‘stick-to the-scripts’ mentality.” In fact, 99 percent of customers surveyed by the company thought that customer service representatives sound too scripted, and 25 percent think training reps to be more natural should be a top priority. John Burdett, CEO of Salesforce consulting firm Fast Slow Motion, says that like trust, empathy is earned and can change the relationship. When you’re working with B2B clients, this means being less scripted in your emails. Templates are useful for key phrases but don’t use a template for a full email. Be specific and say things unique to that customer so they know the email was truly for them.

Know What Can and Can’t Be Changed

It’s not unusual for a client to bring up policies, pricing and other decisions that are outside of your control. Even if it’s your company, and managing day-to-day client relationships, you’re not in a position to simply make large changes to how things are run. It’s also important to know how things work and what you can and cannot do. Additionally, stay on the client’s side for things outside of your control. This way, you don’t seem like part of the problem. Instead of a “client vs. me” mentality, work together to deal with the unfavorable situation.

Realize the Symptom May Not Be the Cause of the Problem

Often, the root cause of a problem is different from the customer‘s issue. Make sure you try to understand what the customer is telling you. Maybe you have found a problem, but is it their problem? Listen intently and ask clarifying questions to ensure you fully understand the customer before figuring out what is actually wrong. They are often just describing a symptom of the real problem. Karl Staib, a conversion specialist at Domino Connection, says that one of the most important skills to practice is listening:

Make Decisions for the Client

An adult makes around 35,000 decisions per day, so it’s easy to get worn out. To avoid decision paralysis, or in fear of being wrong, people in client management have a natural urge to confirm everything with the client. Try to suppress this, as it can slow things down and frustrate the client. This is where strong client relationships come into play. Blame for bad decisions is not assigned; instead, the team comes together to support a decision, and the processes are already in place to measure and manage the outcomes. Staib’s practical advice is to always have two solutions ready to go, and pick the one you think is best. Another example is scheduling meetings. When a client says they can chat sometime this afternoon, instead of asking when they’re available or making them choose when, assume they’re open and schedule something. They will either be happy you’ve made the call, or they’ll let you know the specific time they’re available. Customer happiness isn’t easy. Most people think great personality and a smile makes great service, but there’s more to it. Above all, it’s your job to ensure the client is happy with the results. Read more about building customer relationships at TechCo